Life is busy. Duh. Whether it’s calling/visiting friends and family, volunteering for a cause, getting your workout in, nurturing your relationship… it’s a lot to think about.
But life is all about balance and that’s the tricky part. When does it become too much? When are the meetings, the workouts, the volunteering commitments too much? And how do you keep it from snowballing into one big mess?
For me, I thrive when I have things to do and a set schedule. I love working to fit everything in. If I have nothing planned out in advance, I’m more likely to spend the night sitting on the couch, thinking I have all the time in the world. Then it’s 11 p.m. and nothing has been accomplished.
The scale differs and my healthy balance isn’t going to be the same as the next person’s. A few general tips helped me find mine and showed me the areas of my life that I should focus on. Hopefully they’ll do the same for you:
- Track your schedule for one week. Compare how you’re spending your time against your top priorities (friendships, family, etc…)
- Cut out dysfunctional or draining relationships. Life can hit you hard and you need to save up your resources for things and people that really matter.
- Make a list of the things you want to accomplish in the next year, 5 years and 10 years. When you see them on paper it will help you map out how to reach them.
- Have open conversations with loved ones when you’re struggling. This will not only relieve stress, but offer insight into ways to overcome your rough patch.
- Learn to say no. If it’s not a productive use of your time, don’t do it.
I haven’t figured out the exact formula yet and I’m the first to admit sometimes I overdo it. But I discovered what it feels like when I’m about to hit a wall. I know when I need a Saturday night at home on the couch because it’s been a tough week and that sometimes letting loose is scheduling the “me time” I rarely get.
My point is this: Life is busy. It will never calm down and you will always have commitments. That’s a great thing! You have to keep moving through the hustle and bustle and come up with a way to deal with it that is uniquely you.